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Wednesday, December 31, 2008

New Year's Resolution: A Letter to Myself

For the past five years, my New Year's resolutions have been a variation of 1) lose 10 pounds, 2) save money, and 3) eat healthier. This year, I'm patting myself on the back and saying, "Job well done!" I think it's as good as it's going to get with these three old resolutions, and it's time to think more creatively.


I like making resolutions, but that's no surprise because I like setting goals. New Year's resolutions are really nothing more than glorified goals. There are many books, websites, and blogs devoted to goal setting. I prefer to use my method of time management to regularly tackle my goals and to-do list.

So this year, I have decided to start a new tradition. I have decided to write a letter to myself, which I will open next December. I will include the highlights, goals I'm working towards, and my current ponderings. I also came across a good tip in the comments on Simple Mom - to hide the letter in my stocking when I pack up my Christmas decorations. I haven't decided where I'll stash the letter yet, but this seemed like a fun idea.

Are you setting New Year's resolutions?

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Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Tuesday's Top Pick: Zen Habits

This week's top pick is The Four Laws of Simplicity, and How to Apply Them to Life from Zen Habits. If your New Year's resolution is to get organized, these are the steps for you! I have used a variation of these four steps to organize all the areas in our house (don't get me wrong, it's a continual process). This post is a concise "how to" for simple living. This guy seems interesting - he is the father of six kids and lives in Guam.

What are the four steps?
1. Collect everything in one place.
2. Choose the essential.
3. Eliminate the rest.
4. Organize the remaining stuff neatly and nicely.

For more information, check out the post...

*The posts I select won't always be recent because I like to dig through a blogger's archives to find some of their greatest blog entries.

What was your favorite blog this week?

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Monday, December 29, 2008

Sound Mind, Sound Mom Book Club

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I've been wanting to join a book club for some time, but I had few opportunities to leisure read while I was in school. For my graduation, I asked for books (especially favorite hand-me-downs). I received many great books, and I am looking forward to reading all of them. I am also looking forward to reading the books on the Sound Mind, Sound Mom reading list. Simple Mom is hosting this virtual book club starting in January, which includes six interesting books. I will be sharing my own reviews here and participating in the conversations on Simple Mom.

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Sunday, December 28, 2008

Sunday's Super Simple Solution: Snacks on the Go

I am notorious for snacking. If I don't get a snack every few hours I get grumpy. Since I am often on the move, I have designated a snack box that stays in my car. It's a zippered lunchbox, so I don't have to worry about bugs or small animals finding their way to it. And, it contains items that can withstand the rising temperature inside the car. I replenish my snack box every few days or when it gets low. Right now, my snack box contains two boxes of chocolate soy milk, a diet soda, graham crackers, banana chips, and two granola bars. Remember, anything high in protein makes a good snack!

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Saturday, December 27, 2008

Generosity: Part 4 - Random Acts of Kindness

This is the final post in a series on giving, check out week one, week two, and week three.

Today, I want to reflect on random acts of kindness. When I was 38 weeks pregnant, I went to get a pedicure. While I was sitting in the chair, a woman came up to me and offered to pay for my pedicure. I asked her if I should know who she was, and she said "no." She said, "Every new mother deserves to be pampered." And sure enough, she paid for my pedicure and left the salon before I could find out who she was.

I wrote a letter to the editor thanking my mysterious "giver" for making my day that much brighter.

Here are a few ideas for the New Year:
  • Pass along the last great book you read.
  • If a waiter or service person does a good job, let their boss know.
  • Open the door for a mother with a stroller.
  • Call to thank someone who made an impact on you.
  • Attend a community fundraiser.
  • Give a donation the next time you're asked.
  • Send a friend in need an anonymous traveler's check.
  • Spend an afternoon with a senior citizen in your family.
  • Drop a dollar in a street musician's dish.
  • Pick up trash on the beach.
  • Let someone pass you in the check out line.
  • If asked for help, give it.
  • Send your mother flowers just because.
  • Introduce yourself to the grocery store clerk, and start calling him by name.
  • Bring coffee to a colleague.
  • Tip well.
  • Put a coin in an expired meter.
  • Adopt your new co-worker - explain the email system and offer to answer any questions.
I'll leave you with a quote. Winston Churchill said, "We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give."

How have you benefited from someone's kindness? What have you done for someone else?

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Friday, December 26, 2008

Review of Friday's Fun Finds 2008

Each week I feature a website, company or organization that is interesting, useful, or unusual. Here is a recap of the Friday's Fun Finds for 2008:

Jack Cards - This ingenious website has beautiful cards and promises to address your envelopes and add postage.

The Baby Name Wizard - Check out the popularity of baby names through the decades.

FreeShipping.org - They offer free shipping and coupon codes for over 800 stores, including Gap, Pottery Barn, Target, Nordstrom, Macy's and Best Buy.

BabyPlays Toy Rental Program - It's like Netflix for children's toys.

Black Friday @ GottaDeal.com - Type in your email address and they will send you updates when new ads are posted.

GoodSearch - A search engine which donates 50-percent of its revenue to the charities and schools designated by its users.

Tiny Revolutionary - An adorable t-shirt company that sells onsies and children's tees.

Women's Conference - The sold-out conference took place in Long Beach, CA this year with the theme - Be Who You Are. Feel It. Live It. Pass it on.

HonestBaby.com - This is a website that celebrates imperfect parenting. Check out my guest post on "Getting It All Done."

Flip Clips - Create your own flip book from video clips

Shop-It-To-Me - Select your favorite stores and enter your size, and they send you an email when items go on sale!

photo by tuexperto_com5

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Thursday, December 25, 2008

Thank You and Merry Christmas!

This is just a quick shout out to all the blog readers who have visited Just Plain Joy over the past few months. Thank you for stopping by and being part of this small but growing community! May you and your family have a Merry Christmas!


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Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Countdown to Thirty


Today is my 30th birthday! Enjoy my countdown to 30...

1 = Children I have
2 = 1/2 Marathons I have run
3 = Graduate degrees I've earned
4 = Towns I've lived in
5 = Age of my big puppy Amigo
6 = Months since my darling daughter was born
7 = Years I dated my darling husband (DH) before we were married
8 = Years since DH and I first kissed
9 = Pets I've owned
10 = Jobs I've had
11 = Weddings I've attended
12 = Months I was engaged
13 = Years since I've lived at home
14 = Age of my sweet black lab Hobie
15 = States I've visited
16 = Countries I've visited
17 = Months I've been married
18 = Years until my darling daughter graduates from high school
19 = Months since I sat in a classroom
20 = Age I graduated college
21 = Age I experienced my first "real" hangover
22 = Years I've been in school
23 = Weeks I lived in Australia
24 = Age I started working at the university
25 = Weeks I was on maternity leave
26 = Miles I've run in one day (actually 26.2)
27 = Age I received the Woman of Distinction Award
28 = Age I was married
29 = Age when I completed my PhD
30 = My age today!

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Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Tuesday's Top Pick: Frugal Dad

Today's Top Pick is Last Minute Gift Ideas That Do Not Require Standing in Line from Frugal Dad. I enjoy many of the posts from Frugal Dad, but I thought this one was especially timely and useful. His ideas include six months of flowers and Netflix membership...you'll have to visit the site to read about the others. I especially like the idea of shopping from home, and all these gifts can be purchased even minutes before your family arrives!

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Sunday, December 21, 2008

One Very Loved Dog

Today we put down our dear friend and companion - our dog Hobie. He lived a long full 14-years and is in a better place. He had two oral surgeries this year, and recently developed two aggressive tumors in his mouth. We believe he was no longer enjoying his days and hope we ended his suffering. It's difficult to make decisions about the future of another living being, but as I told my husband, dogs have been domesticated to depend on their master. And, as his masters, we are entrusted with making decisions about his health and well-being.

It is very sad to say goodbye, especially to a friend who has been there through so much with me. I brought Hobie home when I was 16 years old. I couldn't wait to get my driver's license so I could bring home a puppy from the animal shelter. I knew better than to ask my parents, but I knew if I just came home with a dog they could not refuse me - and they didn't. Hobie came into my life after my first broken heart in high school. He came with me to swim practice and to the beach. For the last two years of high school, he was my co-pilot. Then, I went off to college. While I was gone, he waited patiently for me at my parents' house. He lived his first six years outside and had never stepped foot indoors.

When I moved into my own apartment, Hobie moved in with me. For the first time, it was just the two of us. He enjoyed sleeping in the kitchen and barking at our rude neighbors. Then, when my darling husband moved in Hobie had a little competition. It took a while for them to work things out, but soon the two learned to love each other. When we moved into our house, Hobie's living quarters were upgraded as well. He was allowed full reign of the inside and even had his own couch.

Five years ago, we added another furry friend to our family - our yellow lab Amigo. Hobie was a good big brother and role model. He was patient with Amigo and taught him how not to walk on a leash. For many years, they were two peas in a pod. But, lately Hobie hadn't been up to as many of his old antics. He was a black lab/chow mix, and he has gotten into his share of mischief. I appreciated his mellowing over the past several years, but the past few days he barely moved off his bed.

This morning, we took Hobie for one last walk. When we arrived at the vet, Hobie didn't object to being taken in, unlike he usually did. In the end, we held him and told him how much we loved him as the vet helped him to pass on. Then, we buried Hobie at my parents' house where he spent the first six years of his life. We picked a beautiful spot under an oak tree by the creek. I said a few words about how loyal he was, how he taught us about love, and how we appreciate the role he played in our lives. We buried him with his dog bowl and his leash. As we were saying our final good-byes, the clouds cleared and the sun's rays shone down through the trees to where we were standing.

This loss comes on the heels of grandpa's passing, and we have been extremely reflective this past week. It's a sad day in our household but I believe the saying - we are better for having loved and lost than never loved at all. We have lots of great memories of Hobie, and he will always hold a special place in our hearts.

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Sunday's Super Simple Solution: Slimline Hangers

Today marks the first day of Winter. Some of you may have already dug out your winter coats and sweaters. If you hang these items in your closet, they're probably taking up plenty of space.

I use a name brand clothes hanger from QVC that my sister turned me on to several years ago. I have 100 hangers and hang all my clothes - with the exception of my workout wear. These hangers are a huge space saver. And, if I run out of hangers I either have to get rid of something or stop shopping - usually I opt to get rid of something.

Another tip for hanging clothes - use different colored hangers to color code clothing groups - casual, work, and dressy.

This tip came from Donna Smallin of Organizing Plain and Simple.

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Saturday, December 20, 2008

Generosity, Part 3: Giving Through the Years

This post is part of a series on giving, check out week one, week two, and week four.

Today I want to write about the gifts we share with those around us every day through our attitude, philosophy, example, and principles.

My husband’s grandpa passed away this week. He was 92. He is survived by his wife Ruth, two daughters, three grandsons, and three great-granddaughters. He and his wife have been married for 68 years and were an inspiration to me from the day I first met them – at their 60th wedding anniversary (on my second date with my husband).

During the memorial service, my husband shared a few words. My husband shared that his grandpa has given us all something that we will take with us for the rest of our lives. For him, among the gifts he received from his grandpa are his love for fishing and his skill as a craftsman. For me, grandpa gave me a priceless example of a loving marriage that exceeded a half century and outlasted a world war, the Great Depression, and many moons. He also modeled a 20-year retirement full of independence and grace (which is also a gift my father’s mother gave me, and I am reminded of her during this time).

There were many memories of grandpa shared at the service, but my favorite was his courtship with grandma. He sent her an airmail letter every day during their engagement, while they were separated by several states, and on Sundays the letter came special delivery. He was a skilled welder and a hard worker. He loved fishing, and often went fishing early in the morning before a full day in the factory.

I am really proud of my husband for speaking at the service. I have been working on my public speaking skills, and I know how difficult it can be to speak in front of a crowd. My husband was the only person under 50 years old to share a comment. His words were a reminder that we touch people’s lives every day, and that we have many gifts to give that cannot always be seen or appreciated until after a lifetime has passed.
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Grandpa with our daughter, June 2008

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Friday, December 19, 2008

Friday's Fun Find: Jack Cards

It's not too late to send your holiday cards with Jack Cards. If you've already sent holiday cards, make it a New Year's resolution this year to remember every special occasion. This ingenious website has beautiful cards and promises to address your envelopes and add postage. You shop for the cards online (prices are comparable to your local stationary store), enter your addresses, and your pre-addressed stamped cards are mailed to you in time for you to personalize them. And, if you spend $30 or more you will receive free shipping and 20% off your order.

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Thursday, December 18, 2008

Thinking Critically About Advertisements

With the holidays upon us, even more companies are competing for our dollars. We are constantly bombarded by images and messages designed to do our thinking for us. Researchers estimate that we see an average of 3,000 ads daily - t.v., radio, billboards, magazines, etc.

Here are some questions to ask yourself as you come across ads this holiday season:

1. How is this ad designed to make me feel? i.e. is it designed to make me feel like I'm missing something in my life?

2. What is implied? i.e. does the ad imply that if I buy this product I'll look/feel/be like the model selling it?

3. What assumptions do they want me to make? i.e. do they want me to assume this is the only product like this?

4. What do I already know? i.e. if a product is advertised for a "low price," is it really a low price?

5. What is not said? Read the fine print. i.e. a common phrase you'll find in weight loss products is "results not typical."

Check out this post from On Simplicity about limiting the advertising in your life.

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Wednesday, December 17, 2008

My 5 Keys to Happiness

Although consumption has increased 45% in the past 20 years, the proportion of American citizens reporting they are "very happy" has remained the same - around one-third - since 1957. So, if "things" aren't making us happy, what can?

Here are my 5 keys to happiness:

1. Be healthy. My mom always says, "We have nothing if we don't have our health." To me, this means eating well, exercising, and making time for self-care.

2. Live within your means. Living with debt is stressful. Debt is a daily burden that can contribute to depression and unhappiness. When I live within my means, I feel proud of myself. And when I feel proud, I feel happy.

3. Give to others. Research supports the real benefits of giving. Studies have shown that people who give feel happier than people who do not.

4. Learn to say no. It's hard at first, but when I find myself enjoying a quiet Saturday afternoon because I was able to say "no, thanks" to another commitment, I feel happy.

5. Get out in nature. Nature reminds me that life isn't about "things," it's about experiences. There is endless beauty in nature, and that means there is endless happiness out there as well.

Photo by Joan (that's my sister)

What makes you happy?

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Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Tuesday's Top Pick: My Supercharged Life

This week's Top Pick is Please Don't Tell Everyone About My Terrible Mistake! from My Super-Charged Life. Last month, I wrote about learning from mistakes, and this is a great post related to that topic. Jeff courageously shares some intimate mistakes he has made with the message that we can learn from the mistakes of others without making our own painful mistakes all the time.

I also really enjoyed 10 Ways to Improve Your Life Starting Today.

What was your favorite blog this week?

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Monday, December 15, 2008

New Blog Header!

If you read this blog in your email or Google Reader and haven't been to the website in the past week, come on over and check out the new header! It was designed by a friend and owner of Red Canary, and I am really pleased with it! I hope it appeals to new subscribers and helps grow the readership of this blog!

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Sunday, December 14, 2008

Sunday's Super Simple Solution: More Baskets



I know I featured baskets last week, but I just had to mention them again - since they're the ultimate super simple solution. These baskets are storing clothes in my darling daughter's room. The tags are super helpful so that I don't have to pull them down to identify their contents.


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Saturday, December 13, 2008

Generosity, Part 2: 10 Ways to Teach Your Child to Change the World

This post is part of a series on giving, check out week one, week three, and week four.

For the first time in five decades, youth involvement in civic activities is on the rise. For the past half century, there has been a documented decline in voting in elections, attendance at community meetings, and involvement in volunteer activities. Americans have become less civically engaged in each generation, until now.

The early years are the best time to lay the foundation of empathy, generosity, and service. I have been helping young people find opportunities to serve for the past five years in my position as the Volunteer Coordinator at a state university. I have also worked for many years in the non-profit sector. In both roles, I have witnessed the incredible passion and energy that young people can bring to service.

During the holiday season, there are many opportunities to teach children about giving. There are many ways to give – volunteering, philanthropy, and civil service. Sharing our resources is part of our overall civic responsibility.

Here are 10 things you can do to teach your child to change the world:

  1. Volunteer together. There are endless opportunities to volunteer, such as beach cleanups or serving meals at a soup kitchen. For opportunities in your community, check with your local community center or newspaper for groups requesting volunteers. You can also check the Corporation for National & Community Service website.
  2. Sponsor a child or family. Many national and international non-profit organizations specialize in these types of sponsorship, such as World Vision and Feed the Children. You can also find out about adopting a family in your local community through your local United Way.
  3. Donate toys and clothes. Make it a habit to sort through your family’s clothing and toys once or twice a year. Take the opportunity to discuss the many benefits – environmental and humanitarian - of passing along gently used items. Items can be donated to Goodwill and Salvation Army.
  4. Allocate allowance for charity. Encourage your child to allocate a percentage or fixed amount (even $1/week) to charity. Help your child research different charities based on his interests and passions, and discuss how the donation will be used. Many organizations send a letter or certificate that your child can proudly display.
  5. Visit a retirement community or rehabilitation center. Most communities have a retirement or nursing home, and senior citizens often enjoy young visitors. Find out if there are hours of the day when residents play games or have meals when community members can visit.
  6. Make a craft. If your child enjoys art, create a project that can be donated to a local hospital, homeless shelter, or retirement home, such as decorating paper placemats or painting flower pots. If your child prefers writing, make cards and send them to soldiers overseas.
  7. Have a fundraiser. A fundraiser can be as small as a lemonade stand or as large as a community walkathon. If your child is passionate about a cause, encourage her to think big. Every step, from planning to handling donations, will teach your child valuable life skills.
  8. Write a letter to the editor or a political leader. Many politicians care about the voices of even their youngest constituents. Writing can be a powerful tool for a young activist. Assist your child to identify the names and addresses of his local representatives and newspapers.
  9. Be consumer conscious. If you do the shopping for your household, you are making decisions about the products your child consumes. Teach your child about the impact of consumer choice.
  10. Participate in an organized benefit. Many non-profit agencies organize fundraisers, such as walkathons, concerts, barbecues, or carnivals. Participating in these events can be a fun family activity and contributes to a deserving cause.
Consider making it a New Year's Resolution to take on one project each month. If this list seems overwhelming, just pick one or two ideas that work for you.

What would you add to this list?

photo by fazen

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Friday, December 12, 2008

Friday's Fun Find: Baby Name Wizard

Today is our last Parent Participation class for the semester. Every Friday, my darling daughter (DD) and I go to a class for parents organized by the local adult school. It's a part of the week I know I'm going to enjoy. We have topic discussions like sleeping, introducing solid foods, baby sign language, etc. The first day my favorite part was learning all the babies' names. If we had a boy, his name would have been Jonas.

This Friday's Fun Find is The Baby Name Wizard. We had baby names picked out very early on - maybe even before I was pregnant. I still enjoyed using the The Baby Name Wizard. If you haven't tried it, you should check it out. If you're not expecting, check out the popularity of your OWN name.

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Thursday, December 11, 2008

My Home Birth Story

Today is my darling daughter's six-month birthday. To celebrate, I've decided to share my home birth story.

When I was pregnant, I became fascinated by birth stories. I was always hesitant to ask a mother to share her story, but every one seemed extremely willing and excited to talk about it. So, I decided to share our birth story here.

We decided to have a homebirth for many reasons – maybe I’ll post about that decision later. My water broke around 5 p.m. on a Tuesday evening (just two days before my due date, although I felt like I was already past due). My darling husband (DH) and I had gone on a hike (more of a slow walk) that day, and I had just woken up from a nap. I called our midwife and our doula, and they both recommended that I eat a good dinner and get a good night's sleep (as if). I was so excited! I called my mom, and she came over and sat with me for a while. Finally, I decided I should try to get some sleep.

Around 10 p.m. I felt cramping, and by about 3 a.m. my contractions were coming regularly. I've completely forgotten all the pain, but I remember making several mental notes: 1) I worked out almost every day of my pregnancy, why isn’t this easier? 2) this hurts way more than I thought it would, and 3) didn't they tell me I would get a break between contractions?

My doula (doula is Greek for servant) arrived around 3 a.m., and she was incredibly wonderful. She put pressure on my back and feet which made the pain bearable. The pain, which did not let up until I was fully dilated, was so intense that I dealt with it by turning inward. I kept my eyes closed throughout the entire labor. I could not even speak because it took my breath away. My midwife arrived sometime later, although I was so oblivious that I cannot tell you exactly when because I didn't even realize she was there until hours later.

Around 11 a.m. (eight hours later) I was fully dilated and started pushing. My mom and my sister came over, and at this point I thought I was in the home stretch (little did I know I had five more hours to go!). I tried several different positions, walked up and down the stairs (with much assistance), and moved around (very slowly), and finally made some good progress on our bed. We all thought I was close to delivering after three hours of pushing, but when they brought me the mirror I was disappointed to see only the hint of my baby's head (about the size of a nickel). They quickly put the mirror away when it was clear that I thought I was much closer to the end.

After several hours, I was exhausted. I actually fell asleep for about 40 minutes! My midwife and her assistant and my doula worked together to determine the next course of action. They were slightly concerned because the baby's heart rate was low. Every time they monitored the heartbeat I was afraid they were going to transport me to the hospital. They think her umbilical cord was pinched between her head and my pelvic bone.

Finally, around 3 p.m. they recommended that DH sit in a chair and I sat in his lap. The baby's head just didn't want to come out! His energy really helped at the end when I started to be afraid she wasn't going to fit! When she was finally born at 3:43 p.m., we realized that she was 9 lbs! She looked huge. She had a full head of hair and was very alert. She was born right in our bedroom.

Afterward, there were some complications with the placenta (basically, it didn't want to come out), but my midwife was incredible. I ended up losing quite a lot of blood and taking oxygen. They also gave me a shot of pitocin after the labor to stop the bleeding. By that evening I was feeling much better, and it was a completely surreal experience to meet our darling daughter.

For more incredible birth stories, read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth.

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Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Tuesday's Top Pick: Plugged in Parents

Before our darling daughter (DD), we had dogs. As you can see, they were even in our wedding! We are still dog lovers at heart. And since there's nothing cuter than a puppy around the Christmas tree during the holidays, I picked this article about Top Ten Family Dogs from Plugged in Parents (voted Best Practical Information Parenting Website by Real Simple magazine) for this week's top post.







*The posts I select won't always be recent because I like to dig through a blogger's archives to find some of their greatest blog entries.

What was your favorite blog this week?

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Monday, December 8, 2008

Tips for a Happy and Healthy Relationship

My darling husband (DH) and I survived my first week back at work. During this adjustment period, I'm reminding myself of these helpful hints for keeping the peace in our relationship:

1. Listen. Listen. Listen. This means active listening - eye contact, giving full attention, nodding, and seeking to understand. Unlike many men, my husband is a talker. When I'm tired, I feel like tuning out everything. Like most people, it's important to him that he feels heard and understood.

2. Show Gratitude. Everyone wants to feel appreciated. When things get busy, it's easy to overlook the things that are getting done. Saying "thank you," is an easy way to show gratitude. Just like praise, the more specific the better. So, instead of just saying "thanks," try saying "thank you for doing the dishes, I appreciate the fact that I'll get to sleep in a little later tomorrow."

3. Show respect. They say we treat the ones we love the worst. When I'm frustrated and feel like losing it, I try to ask myself, "would I talk to my best friend this way?" Usually, the answer is no. Sometimes I don't even realize my tone of voice until we end up in an argument.

4. "I love you too much to argue." My mom used this one on me all the time, and I hated it. But now, I've grown to love it. It usually heads off an argument by reminding us both that we're ultimately on the same team.

5. Assume the best. Sometimes my DH will make a comment that I'm just certain is intended to make my blood boil. When these comments lead to an argument, most times it turns out to be a misunderstanding.

6. Don't forget the hugs, kisses, and (well, you know...). After a long day, it is easy to hit the sack and forget the niceties. However, scientific research shows that (well, you know) is what makes men feel connected. So, if you're feeling a little disconnected as a couple, remember that typically women need more hugs and kisses and men need more (well, you know).

I'm hoping that these tips will help keep us as happy as a couple of love birds.

photo by AMICHAELMURRAY

How do you communicate with your loved ones?

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Sunday, December 7, 2008

Sunday's Super Simple Solution: Baskets




Using baskets for organization is nothing unique, but it is a super simple solution. Here is how I've used baskets to organize my hall closet. I wish I had the before picture to show for it, but you can imagine before the baskets these shelves were piled with supplies, gifts, toiletries, CDs, and more.



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Saturday, December 6, 2008

Generosity, Part 1: Five Ways to Give

This post is part of a series on giving, check out week two, week three, and week four.

As we enter the "giving season," I want to reflect on the act of giving. Each Saturday, for the month of December, I will be writing about generosity. (If you're not already a subscriber, this would be a good time to enter your email address in the box on the right!)

I have been on the Board of Directors for the local United Way for the past three years, and we talk a lot about encouraging people to "give." While there are many tax-supported social services, our country relies heavily on non-profit agencies. Non-profits, which are driven by donors, fill in the gaps in services in many areas, such as mental health and homelessness.

Here are five ways you can give:

Give time. This is the most basic - volunteer to serve a meal at your local soup kitchen, walk dogs at the animal shelter, or shelve books at the library. If you want to be part of a bigger movement, look for national days of service at the Corporation for National & Community Service.

Give money. This is another basic one - donate to your local or national non-profit of choice. Or, consider donating to an agency like United Way, which supports local non-profits and uses a grant review process to allocate donations. Another upcoming service is DonorsChoose.org where teachers write grants and you choose which project(s) to support via this website.

Give services. This is similar to giving time, but specifically in your area of expertise. Lawyers and accountants are highly sought after as donors of time and service.

Give product. Many non-profit agencies have silent auctions or raffles as fundraisers, and a piece of art or gift basket is an appreciated donation. You can also donate toilettries and canned foods to your local homeless shelter or food bank.

Give connections. This might not be immediately obvious, but your connections can be extremely valuable to non-profits. Although you might not have the funds to make a large donation, your company may. Approaching your CEO or sharing the contact information of your public relations representative could result in an a donation to a non-profit.

How will you give this holiday season?

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Friday, December 5, 2008

Friday's Fun Find: Free Shipping

Just in time for the holidays, check FreeShipping.org before you do your online shopping. They offer free shipping and coupon codes for over 800 stores, including Gap, Pottery Barn, Target, Nordstrom, Macy's and Best Buy.

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Thursday, December 4, 2008

Three Ways to Lose Money on eBay

Awhile back I wrote about using eBay to declutter and make a little extra cash. Well, now I'd like to revisit eBay and mention a few ways you can lose money.

Here are three ways you can lose money on eBay:

#1 Miscalculate shipping. The other day I was shipping several packages and I entered the wrong weight when creating my shipping label. By the time I realized my mistake, I had already paid twice as much to ship the item. Another common mistake is miscalculating the shipping when posting the item online. The buyer is responsible for paying for shipping, but it's the seller's responsibility to accurately calculate it.

#2 Undervalue your product. I sometimes post items for $0.99 when I know they are worth more because I'm counting on a bidding war (the higher your asking bid the more it costs to post on eBay). However, if the item only receives one bid I really have to let go of the item for less than it's worth. Before posting, be sure you can really live with your asking bid.

#3 Spend more time on eBay than it's worth. You know what they say, time is money. And, now that I'm back at work, I know my free time is more valuable spent with my family than on eBay. That's why I've decided to take a hiatus from eBay for awhile.

I'd like to add #4, Spend all your profits online shopping, but that's a good way to lose money any way you look at it (not just on eBay).

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Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Writing a Holiday Letter Your Friends Will Want to Read

My family has an annual tradition of writing a holiday letter. About ten years ago, I started writing my own holiday letter. I keep my holiday letters, along with those from friends and family, in a special Christmas binder. It's a great way to reflect on the year, and it's fun to read all the letters from the past.

However, when the end of the year rolls around, it can be a little stressful and time-consuming to try cranking out a heartfelt letter updating everyone on the happenings of the year when there are so many other happenings that need attending. If you want to start a holiday letter tradition, or need a little inspiration, here are some fun ideas:

Write from an outsider's point of view - the dog, the cat, the mouse in the house.

Approach it chronologically - write a sentence or two about each month. Or, write a short paragraph about each season.

Give each family member equal time - write a paragraph about each family member, include the dog if he's part of the family!

Have fun with numbers - i.e. "4 = number of shoes the dogs ate this year; 1023 = number of miles driven on family vacation."

Have fun with letters - i.e. "A is for Anniversary." (This idea was originally my sister's, and I used it for our holiday letter this year.)

Start with satire - i.e. "I ran my first race this year and came in 210th out of 219." I tried this one year, and it's a little harder to pull off. I really did come in 210th out of 219, but I went on to run a marathon in Alaska!

Highlight those around you - write about your college roommate marrying her best friend at the wedding you attended in January. It will be fun for your friends to see themselves featured in your letter. Just remember to be sure your friends are ok with being featured and include pertinent information for those you might not know your roommate by name.

Use photos instead of words - if a picture is worth a 1,000 words, then a holiday photo collage instead of a holiday letter will get you more bang for your buck! Use captions to include necessary information for your friends and families.

With all holiday letters, you should consider your audience, avoid making it a laundry list of your accomplishments, and include humor!

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Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Tuesday's Top Pick: On Simplicity

Today's top pick is Three Easy Ways to Limit the Advertising in Your Life from On Simplicity. Advertising has grown exponentially in our culture and around the world, and this post gives great suggestions for cutting some of it out of your life. Check out other great posts on simplicity on her blog as well.

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Monday, December 1, 2008

10 Lessons Learned from No Spend Month


This is the last post in a series on budgeting, check out the rules, week 1, week 2, week 3, and week 4. This post is longer than my usual posts, but it's a wrap-up.

What kind of sound does a credit card make when you swipe it? Well, that is a sound I have not heard in a month. This past month, I took on the personal challenge of significantly limiting my spending. I was inspired by the No Spend Month series on Small Notebook and, allocating only $300 in cash to spend on anything for myself and the household, I wrapped my credit card in paper and sealed it with tape. My allocated budget included gas, food, clothing (of which I bought none), and entertainment (of which I had very little).

Here are 10 lessons I learned during No Spend Month:

Lesson #1: Curbing your spending can require choosing between shopping close to home and traveling to find better deals. I live in a somewhat remote area – the nearest Trader Joe’s, Food 4 Less, or Target is 20-40 miles away. Each trip to “town” costs $5 to $10. When I run out of staple foods like eggs, milk, and bread, I pay 10% more to buy them in my town than in next town over. During No Spend Month, I opted to shop at the local grocery store rather than travel to town for just a few items.
Goal: Ultimately, I would rather take the bus, but where I live the public transportation system is pretty limited. The next best thing is to combine shopping and errands and to plan ahead.

Lesson #2: Saving money sometimes requires choosing between supporting local businesses versus shopping at chain stores. During No Spend Month, I started window shopping for holiday presents. I prefer to buy gifts from the local stores – they have many unique handmade items (like purses, jewelry, and pottery), but the department stores have similar items for almost half the cost. I decided this year I will shop locally and opt for slightly smaller holiday gifts.
Goal: Support local vendors by purchasing items that are less expensive, such as flowers and produce at Farmer’s Markets.

Lesson #3: Living on a budget can mean choosing between buying in bulk versus buying what you can afford. I found a great deal on a 24-pack of light bulbs, but even at a low price I only use a few light bulbs in my house per year. And, there are things I need more than light bulbs. There are lots of items that come cheaper in bulk, such as canned foods and toiletries, and if you can afford to buy them in bulk you can surely save several dollars. However, during No Spend Month, I opted to only buy what I needed for the month (and that did not include light bulbs).
Goal: Find a friend who is willing to split bulk items.

Lesson #4: Organic and healthy foods cost more. It is clear why low-income families struggle with poor nutrition – healthy food is more expensive than processed food. It was tough to spend a few extra dollars on items that looked virtually the same, but I opted for the organic produce whenever there was an option.
Goal: Research which types of foods have the highest levels of pesticides. For example, peaches and apples rank highest, while onions and avocados rank lowest. Information is available at foodnews.org.

Lesson # 5: Meat is expensive. Our family eats meat at every meal, and it is a significant portion of our grocery bill. I spent $25 on meat for one week (ham for breakfast, turkey for lunch, chicken and beef for dinner).
Goal: Try to find tasty, filling, less expensive alternatives to meat (any suggestions?).

Lesson #6: Utilities and bills can take a large percentage of your budget. Even though I only spent $300 on groceries, gas, and personal items, our bills still totaled $450 (for water, trash, internet, cable, phone, gas and electric, not including our mortgage payment) for the month. I was proud to say I stuck to my budget, but the reality is that I didn’t cut back in many areas.
Goal: Find ways to reduce recurring bills. Many utility companies offer online programs that break down your bill to help you understand how you can cut costs.

Lesson #7: Buying baby items, even secondhand, adds up. I found a great deal on a used high chair on craigslist. I know my parents would have gladly bought us a new high chair, but they wouldn’t consider a “used” high chair as a gift.
Goal: Ask my parents to consider contributing towards a baby fund, separate from a college fund, during birthdays and holidays. If you don’t have kids, consider setting up your own “fun money” account for graduations, birthdays, and holidays – just be sure to thank Aunt Betty for the DVD “she” bought you!

Lesson #8: Use student loan money for being a student. I received a student loan earlier this year. Like many students, I used some of it to buy a couple new outfits. During No Spend Month, I had to purchase school supplies and pay fees. While I didn’t go over budget, it was still a reminder that those funds were designated for school related expenses.
Goal: Reserve designated funds for their purpose. Even if you aren’t a student, the same goes for an emergency fund or credit card – only use it for true “emergencies.”

Lesson #9: A homemade sandwich is as good as one from the deli. One afternoon I had to ask my sister for a favor. Normally, I would have offered to buy her lunch, but instead I offered to make her a sandwich and bring it over.
Goal: Find more opportunities to use food and items I already have on hand.

Lesson #10: Living on a tight budget leaves little room for error. It can be difficult to stretch every dollar. So many people are living from paycheck to paycheck, and a minor financial setback can be extremely stressful. When I had to make additional purchases that I had not anticipated, I became anxious about exceeding my monthly allocation. Luckily, this was only a personal challenge, but in many cases running out of money can mean there will be no meal on the table.
Goal: Be more patient and compassionate towards others. You never know another person’s personal circumstances.
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